One of the most meaningful parts of counselling is watching a person come into closer contact with who they really are. In my work, I often see this unfold through a process Carl Jung called individuation – a gradual uncovering and integration of parts of the self that may have been hidden, neglected, or shaped by others.
Individuation isn’t about striving to become someone new. It’s about noticing where we’ve been living from expectation or habit, and gently reconnecting with something more real and grounded within. Often, this work brings us into contact with parts of ourselves we find difficult – our so-called shadow – and invites us to explore what’s been buried there with curiosity and compassion.
In the counselling room, this might look like a client beginning to question an old story about themselves, or finding the courage to express a need they’ve never felt able to voice. It’s not a straight path. But over time, the process can bring a deeper sense of clarity, freedom and emotional presence.
For those wanting to explore this more deeply, I’ve written a full article on individuation over on my Thoughtful Observer Substack. You can read it here.
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