COUNSELLING IN BRIGHTON AND HOVE

When people ask me what makes therapy work, I don’t start by listing techniques or theories. I tend to come back to something much simpler and more human – the relationship itself.

For a lot of people, the idea of opening up to someone can feel daunting. That makes sense. In daily life, we’re often expected to get on with things, keep it together, and not go too far below the surface. Therapy offers a different kind of space. A slower space. One where you’re not being judged or analysed. You’re just being met, as you are, wherever you are.

What I’ve come to appreciate through my work is how powerful that can be. When someone feels genuinely heard, something shifts. It’s not always dramatic. Often it’s quiet. But over time, that feeling of being seen without pressure or expectation can make room for change. Not the kind of change that’s imposed from the outside, but the kind that emerges from within when the conditions are right.

I think that’s why the relationship between counsellor and client matters so much. It’s not about having all the answers. It’s about building a connection that feels safe enough for the questions to come out. In that kind of relationship, people can start to hear themselves more clearly. They can begin to trust that what they’re feeling makes sense, even if it’s painful or confusing.

That trust doesn’t come instantly. It’s built over time. It grows in the small moments – a silence that’s allowed to linger, a truth that’s shared and accepted, a feeling that doesn’t need to be fixed.

If there’s anything I’d want someone to know before starting therapy, it’s this: the relationship you build with your therapist can become a kind of anchor. A place to return to as you explore what’s going on beneath the surface. It doesn’t mean the work is easy, but it can mean you’re not alone in it.

And sometimes, that makes all the difference.